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October 20, 2024
To be ‘Virtuous’

Virtuous-
adjective
1. Having or showing virtue, especially moral excellence: synonym: moral.
2. Chaste (especially in a woman)
3. Possessing or exhibiting virtue.

The goal of Stoicism is to assist the individual achieving a virtuous life.

The above definition is of course a more modern interpretation of Virtue.

Virtue was called ‘Summum Bonum’ or the ‘Highest Good’ by Cicero. Or the real aim of life.
In order to achieve virtue or become virtuous, one had to master the four Stoic ‘Virtues’.

Wisdom
Courage
Temperance
Justice

WISDOM -
“The chief task in life is simply this: to identify and separate matters so that I can say clearly to myself which are externals not under my control, and which have to do with the choices I actually control. Where then do I look for good and evil? Not to uncontrollable externals, but within myself to the choices that are my own” — Epictetus

It’s the meaning of Philosophy: a love of wisdom.
Wisdom is defined as the knowledge of what is and is not good or evil. Knowledge of what we ought to choose. What to be aware of, and what is indifferent.

Possessing this knowledge informs your decisions. It should allow you not to act impulsively or irrationally.

Wisdom is harnessing what you’ve learned and using it in your everyday life.
“Works, not words.” - Seneca

TEMPERANCE -
“‘If you seek tranquillity, do less.’ Or (more accurately) do what’s essential—what the logos of a social being requires, and in the requisite way. Which brings a double satisfaction: to do less, better. Because most of what we say and do is not essential. If you can eliminate it, you’ll have more time, and more tranquillity. Ask yourself at every moment, ‘Is this necessary?’”
— Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

Aristotle called it ‘The golden mean’ or the middle…
That area between excess and deprivation. Not too much, nor too little. ‘Your share’
Seneca the younger said:
“You ask what is the proper limit to a person’s wealth? First, having what is essential, and second, having what is enough.”

Temperance comes from the knowledge that ‘abundance’ comes from what is essential. It is often used interchangeably with ‘self control’. Not just material things, but in pleasure, pain, admiration, contempt, failure or triumph.

Temperance is guarding against extremes, not relying on momentary pleasure for happiness nor allowing the temporariness of pain to destroy it.

COURAGE-
“Don’t you know life is like a military campaign? One must serve on watch, another in reconnaissance, another on the front line. . . . So it is for us—each person’s life is a kind of battle, and a long and varied one too. You must keep watch like a soldier and do everything commanded. . . . You have been stationed in a key post, not some lowly place, and not for a short time but for life.” — Epictetus, Discourses

Two words should be committed to memory and obeyed. Persist and resist.” - Epictetus

“Nero can kill me, but he can not harm me.” -Seneca the younger

We all understand Courage.

  • We cheer for the runner, who fell, and was injured, but gets up and finishes the race, with no hope of victory.
  • The lone warrior who stays back to slow pursuit.
  • The 300 at Thermopylae…
  • Marcus Aurelius, the most powerful man in the known world, the absolute ruler of a decedent empire. Struggling to be good man and not succumb to the intoxication of absolute power…
  • Elon Musk buying Twitter.

Each took enormous amounts of courage.
Each required resisting the comfort of the status quo and coming to one’s own judgement.

Stoic Courage; the courage to face misfortune, courage in the face of death, courage to risk your life for your fellow man.
Courage to hold to your principles, even when others get away with, or rewarded for, disregarding theirs.
Courage to speak your mind and insist on truth.

JUSTICE-
“And a commitment to justice in your own acts. Which means: thought and action resulting in the common good. What you were born to do.” — Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

“Justice is the source of all other virtues.” - Marcus Aurelius

“Justice is the crowning glory of the virtues.” - Seneca the younger

Justice wasn’t an expression, but a way of life to Cicero, and he has been respected for his example of living those words.
“All ages of the world have not produced a greater statesman and philosopher combined” - John Adams on Cicero

Thomas Jefferson has said that the Declaration of Independence was based on; “the elementary books of public right, as Aristotle, Cicero, Locke, Sidney, etc.”

Stoics hold Justice in a much broader scope than the legal system. It is what rules our interactions with other individuals.

When Cicero first defined the four Stoic Virtues, Justice he explains as
“the principle which constitutes the bond of human society and of a virtual community of life.”

  • That no one do harm to another.
  • That one use common possessions as common; private as belonging to their owners.
  • We are not born for ourselves alone.
  • Men were brought into being for the sake of men, that they might do good to one another.
  • We ought to follow nature as a guide, to contribute our part to the common good.
  • Good faith, steadfastness, and truth.
    It is useful, he says, to consider what it means to act unjustly. Simple: anything that inflicts injury or harms another being. “For the most part,” Cicero explains, “men are induced to injure others in order to obtain what they covet.”

The most radical idea of Stoicism is
‘Sympatheia’.
The idea that everything in universe is interdependent.
“What injures the hive injures the bee.” - Marcus Aurelius

“Seeking the very best in ourselves means actively caring for the welfare of other human beings.”- Epictetus

“to honor equality, to want to do good, and for a person, being human, to not want to harm human beings—this is the most honorable lesson and it makes just people out of those who learn it.” — Musonius Rufus

What does a Stoic ultimately believe? That they don’t control the world around them, only how they respond—and that they must always respond with courage, temperance, wisdom, and justice.

Life can be crippling worrying about things we have no control over. We always have the capacity to use reason and make choices.
We can use these choices to free ourselves.
We should always try to do the right thing. To be guided by ‘virtue’.
It’s all we really control.
The rest will happen with or without your consent. So why trouble yourself?

“If, at some point in your life, you should come across anything better than justice, prudence, self-control, courage—than a mind satisfied that it has succeeded in enabling you to act rationally, and satisfied to accept what’s beyond its control—if you find anything better than that, embrace it without reservations—it must be an extraordinary thing indeed—and enjoy it to the full.
But if nothing presents itself that’s superior to the spirit that lives within—the one that has subordinated individual desires to itself, that discriminates among impressions, that has broken free of physical temptations, and subordinated itself to the gods, and looks out for human beings’ welfare—if you find that there’s nothing more important or valuable than that, then don’t make room for anything but it.”
— Marcus Aurelius

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February 18, 2025
Blast from the past

Baby Sis is having all of her father’s 8mm film library digitized.
I hope that stag film I found isn’t in there.🤣😂🤣😂😂

Here is a short clip of Baby Sis and Mama leaving the hospital.
There’s a handsome 13 yr old young fella that carries her.

For reference, Mama was 5’8”, so at 13, I was 5’9”-5’10”.

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December 31, 2024
Sous Vide

‘Under Vacuum’

I sous vide two ribeyes for supper.
2.5 hours at 132 F.
Here I’m ’putting a sear on them’.
I also put in a large roast at the same time, it will be in the water for 27 hours at 132F before I sear it tomorrow.
The roast should be as tender as Prime Rib.

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December 17, 2024
Ascension into

Heaven.
I’m jaded when it comes to Cathedrals.
They are my lovely brides favorite thing. She’s even taken an online course all about them.
She loves a flying buttress…
Therefore, I’ve been in a few Cathedrals.
Don’t get me wrong, the craftsmanship and the time it took to build these Monuments, make them incredible.
I just see ‘cause’ for the reformation everywhere.
Especially the one in Toledo, it has a ‘Chapel’ in the corner of the Cloisters dedicated to a bishop and his nephew. Their Sarcophagi, with their likenesses are in the center of the chapel. The Bishop spent the equivalent of millions of dollars, glorifying himself in the 14th century. Money, given as tithes by the poor.

I always try to find the ‘crypt’ to see if they have any ‘Saints’ on display, in glass cases. This Cathedral had one. St Ursula, of the 11,000 virgins. She and her handmaidens were executed by Atilla the Hun, after she refused to marry him.
She is the Patron Saint of young girls.

The one thing that ...

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March 02, 2022
This is my Darth Vader voice

For you doubters…
😂🤣😂😂🤣

This is my Darth Vader voice
February 21, 2025
“I’m a man…”

“Yes I am and I can’t help but love you so…”

It’s cold as hell outside.
The water is ‘stiff’.

My Scooter is ready for pick up.
The HD dealer called day before yesterday to let me know it was ready…

I’ve ridden in cold weather.
When I had to.
Not exactly my first choice in riding weather.
Yes, I could go get it and ride the 15 miles back, but why.
I don’t have to.
Yes ‘I’m a man’ but at my age, I’ve nothing left to prove.
So I’ll wait for a day when the water isn’t ‘Stiff’.

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February 20, 2025
Just once more?

“I’ve seen fire and I’ve seen rain
I’ve seen sunny days I thought would never end
I’ve seen lonely times when I could not find a friend
But I always thought
That I’d see you
One more time
Again…”

“One day, one time,
will be the last time,
you will pick up and hold your child…”

“You can never go ‘Home’.”

The other day, I had a realization.
We’ve lived in the Big Blue Beast for almost 1/5 of our marriage. Almost 8 years out of almost 41.

Lots of life has happened in the last eight years. The birth of two grandchildren, two marriages and one divorce. My parents going from independent living to passing.

I’m stoic, so I take it all in stride.
I have one, strange life fear, I can’t conquer.
I don’t fear death.
I fear the desperate loneliness if my wife were to die first.
You may say
“Well that’s selfish.”
Yes it is, but if it’s any consolation, she would not fare better than I.
Someday will be the last; kiss, touch, hand hold, and look of love in her eyes.
For us all, for ...

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February 19, 2025
Just a ‘bit’ of OCD

Whenever I purchase a ‘High priced coffee’, that has a logo on the cup, I line up the ‘sippy hole’ with the label.
Why?
Because there is never a ‘seam’ in the label.

I once, on the way to a meeting, which was one of the last times I wore a white ‘Button down’ shirt, bought a coffee.
The intelligent barista put the ‘sippy hole’ near the cup’s seam.
I spilled coffee all down my damn shirt.
Since then, I always line up the label, or make sure the seam is opposite the ‘sippy hole’. (That sounded vaguely dirty)

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November 30, 2022
The Day I Retired

Its almost the sixth anniversary...

 

Some of you may have looked at my photos and thought; what young looking handsome man… He couldn't be old enough to retire …

 

Thank you Mama

 

Anyway, I am 60 and I retired at 55 in July of 2017. I was given a retainer for two more months in order to be on call. I couldn’t always get a reliable Internet connection and I can’t take someone’s money for nothing, so I shut that down in Sept 2017…

 

So you are thinking, what day in July did you retire? I didn’t really retire in July 2017. I quit going to work then…

 

I retired Thursday, around 1:35 PM, December 15, 2016…

 

Life was good for @The_CINC and I.

It was shortly before Christmas 2016. Tiny dancer, our surprise baby was a junior in college. We had a 4K sqft house on 7 acres, 40 miles south of Washington DC. It was our second house in 33 yrs of marriage. We had lived there for over 20 yrs. The final house payment was due Nov 10, 2017.

The CINC was at the highest point you can achieve as a civilian Govt Employee without going into the Senior Executive Service. When she was offered SES, the CINC had gotten to the point at which it would have meant more work, more time away from home, for no more money (because of the pay structure) for at least five to seven years. We also knew we wanted to Retire, so it made no sense to invest the time required for an SES position.

She worked for OSD, DOD, WHS (The office that runs the Pentagon, they are the ‘Landlords’) for 34 years. At one point she ran a division that had a yearly budget of $1 Billion.

She would be eligible to retire in April 2017. We really hadn’t decided what we were going to do. My top-secret NSA/DOD clearance was supposed to be coming through anytime. One of my specialties was encrypted secure communications.

I was a subcontractor for IBM and they were paying $50,000 for my vetting. It had been 2 years because I was a traveling consultant that didn’t associate with my neighbors… I was gone all of the time and I couldn’t see any of them from my house anyway..

Once that clearance came through, I could double or triple my salary which wasn’t small in the first place.

Here we were, at the top of our earning potential, few bills, house almost paid for, kids all gone…

 

Life was good…

 

Then Thursday, around 1:35 PM, December 15, 2016, happened…

I was in Birmingham AL, working at the US HQ, of a regional US bank that had been acquired by a Spanish bank. I was digitizing and updating their manual and electronic bank and treasury transactions. I had been on this contract for three years. The last 10 months or so I had been mostly remote, working from my lazy boy.

They wanted me to come in for some end of the year meetings and Christmas parties.

I flew in Monday mornings, getting to the office around 10:00 AM. I would work 10 hours Monday, 12-14 Tuesday and Wednesday, 6-8 Thursday and then catch a flight home around 4:00 pm Thursday. I would have 40-45 hours in 4 days by the time I caught my flight home.

 

I was sitting at my ‘station’, there weren’t really ‘cubes’, just tables with 3-4” dividers that had plugs. It was basically a giant open room, semi closed at each end by meeting rooms. My seat was near the meeting rooms. Behind me to my right was a large opening which led to a spacious elevator lobby.

The bank of elevators were the divider for another large working area. If you really tried, you could easily get 150-200 people in the elevator lobby.

 

I had just come back from lunch. I was trying to wrap a few things up before heading to the airport. A woman calmly walks behind me and says “Does anybody know first aid?”

I stood up “Excuse me?!?” She pointed to the elevator lobby behind her.

So I walked that way to see what was happening…

 

I am a trained first responder. I was a police officer at the pentagon and I was a FFX County VA police officer. I am also a trained BSA leader with back country first aid training.

 

As I entered the elevator lobby I saw an extremely obese man laying partially on his back. A woman by his side rubbing his hand looking concerned. Another man near his feet watching. I looked around, there were about 10 gawkers.

“MA’AM!”

I startled the woman to look at me…

“We have to treat him for shock”

First thing I could think of, get him flat on his back, elevate his feet.

"Go get that footstool"

That gave her something to do and think about.

I looked at the gentleman "Find me something to keep him warm."

I got him on his back. He must have weighed 400 Lbs.

I ripped his shirt open, put my head on his chest.

No Breathing, no heartbeat.

I took his pulse at his carotid artery to make sure.

No, pulse, his face was white, blue lips, his eye lids were partially open, his eyes were already clouding over...

He was already dead.

I looked up for a second...

At least 175-200 people were watching me...

I could hear people sobbing..

Where the hell did they all come from?

So I measured up his sternum, and began compressions..

If you've never really done CPR...

The first time will gross you out. I broke every bone in his chest away from his sternum. It sounded like I was crushing a bag of potato chips.

Another gentleman, kneeling beside me asked "Shouldn't you do the breaths?"

I was doing this for show. I knew he was dead. I have seen and handled many dead bodies. He was already dead, he wasn't coming back.

I looked over at the decedent's face, my compressions were forcing his lunch out of his mouth.

"Turn his head to the side, sweep his mouth, knock yourself out."

About that time a woman came over with an automatic defibrillator.

As I was giving compressions, I talked her through placement of the electrodes. She was so upset, she couldn't read the instructions.

She placed the electrodes, hit the switch, and audible countdown started from 15. When it got to one, it would send the charge.

I kept doing compressions until the Defib audibly said 'CLEAR', at which time, for some reason , I through my arms up like a touchdown. As soon as the cycle was over, I started compressions again.

I was starting to get winded, when I heard the elevators open and EMTs emerged.

one immediately kneeled across from me and took over.

 

I simply stood up, and walked away.

I didn't want to be there anymore.

I walked back to my station, and packed my stuff.

I was going to the airport.

As luck would have it..

I followed the gurney down to the lobby, one of the EMTs on the guy's chest still giving compressions.

 

On the drive to the airport, the shakes hit... I can stay extremely calm in the most stressful situations, but it takes a heavy toll later.

After arriving at my gate, I sat down, my cell phone rang. It was my boss from the bank "I just wanted to let you know that the guy didn't make it."

'I know" I said, "I knew that before I left, thanks for letting me know"

 

I called @The_CINC and told her everything. I then said "I don't want to die in a cube farm. Let's retire"

 

The Bank, and my employer tried to do some kind of ceremony for me. I told them not to, it was a dumb idea. If he would have lived it would have been a celebration of his life. He died, there was nothing to be proud of.

 

That was why they gave me the retainer...

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